Before diving into this week’s post, I feel that it’s important to address the events that happened in Charlottesville last weekend and currently ongoing in Barcelona. Please do your best to spread love in the world. It’s sometimes hard to do so, especially in contentious times. But the power of one person has the ability to change the world. Do what you can to be that person and spread light and positivity where ever you can. There’s no telling who you might be inspiring with your kindness and love.
“Life in My Eyes” is a series that highlights my favorite things across entertainment, beauty products, and everything in between. Enjoy! And now to August 2017 …
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Obviously a lot has changed in my life since my last post in this series. (See here if you don’t know what I’m talking about.) But it is only because some amazing things have happened in my life and some amazing people have supported me along that my outlook has been so positive.
Know that there is absolutely NO way I could have made it through this entire experience on my own. When we first separated, I literally became anemic for a while, could not hold down food, and my mental space was so crazy that I would break down crying while crouched in the corner at random times of the day.
But my tribe has pulled me back up, some of which are mentioned below. When you go through tough times, NEVER be afraid to ask for help. I promise you that it does get better. I’m not even all the way there yet, and I know it does get better. Be okay with going to those depths.
Everyone is deep, but most are afraid to dive. Don’t live life on the shallow end. You are worth SO much more than that.
So, while I don’t have everything figured out (heck, I don’t even have 1 inch of anything figured out at this point), here are some things that are helping me be okay with life right now with eyes looking forward to an even brighter future.
Thank you: My amazing partners and clients, especially Ashton
It just so happens that I had a few clients starting with me very late April and early June. And if you know about the timing of everything that happened in the past few months, those were some BIG months for me.
But I have INCREDIBLE partners and clients that allowed me to flex my schedule a bit, dealt with a few periods where they knew I’d be off the grid, and very much helped to inspire me to move forward.
As one example, Ashton over at Yogi Approved and I started talking about the class mentioned above in late April, well before we knew how much my life would be changing. But it’s coming at the perfect time for me, and I know it will be for many of you, as well.
Next Tuesday, August 22nd, we’ll be talking through the astrological meaning of the solar eclipse, specifically why this is a perfect time to cleanse the past and let it go towards a brighter future, as well as leading a wonderful flow that will help you put it into action. (Plus, we have plenty of fun surprises planned, too!)
If you’re in Colorado, then I hope to see you there!
Perfect Music for the Moment
Thank you: You guys!
The second I posted why I hadn’t posted in a while, so many of you guys reached out with words of support and encouragement. But because I talk about music so frequently on the blog, I found it especially cool that so many of you offered songs that might help me through the grief process. And you were spot on!
In case you’re ever in a similar spot, then below are some of my favorite songs from across the past few months in no particular order. Each song has had it’s own phase and speaks to me on different days. (And hey, if you have any other suggestions, please share them in the comment section below, too!) *Note: Some of these songs do have explicit lyrics. Because yes, I did have an angry phase, and you would have had one, too.*
‘Really Don’t Care’ by Demi Lovato (feat. Cher Lloyd)
‘White Flag’ by Joseph
‘A Little Bit Stronger’ by Danielle Bradbery
‘You Don’t Know About Me’ by Ella Vos
‘Reflections’ by MisterWives
‘PS GFY’ by GRiZ (feat. Cherub)
‘No Matter What’ by Little Monarch
‘Shout Out to My Ex’ by Little Mix
‘Plot Twist’ by Sigrid
‘Golden’ by Ruth B
‘Brave’ by Sara Bareilles
‘The Lime Tree’ by Trevor Hall
Please note, this is actually a much edited down list, because the actual list took up the entire post. And I felt that was a bit unnecessary. 😉
Thank you: Noelle
While I mentioned that my clients and partners were amazing, that’s truthfully an under-statement. But the super-incredible Noelle deserves an extra special shout-out.
Noelle hosted a Wine and Women Wednesday discussion at her boutique (DEFINITELY check it out if you’re in Denver) about how to thrive after it feels like your life has hit rock bottom. She is truly one of the greatest examples I’ve ever met of someone who has been able to THRIVE, even after tough run of events. And her boutique, SHINE, continues to inspire women everyday to shine from the inside out.
Thank you, Noelle, for being an inspiration for all of us.
Dan Gilbert TED Talk
Thank you: Family, especially Meghan for this awesome video!
When I first started going through this entire process, my cousin mentioned this video and I was immediately intrigued. It’s all about the science of happiness, primarily focused on synthetic happiness.
I still find it to be fascinating and highly recommend checking it out, no matter what kind of trauma you have faced, are facing, or will face in the future.
Daily Phone Calls
Thank you: Friends
In the past, when someone would have something traumatic happen in their lives, I would be the one to give them some space and call them in a week or two not wanting to “bother” them.
But this experience made me realize the complete opposite. Be the person to BE THERE. Call everyday for a while. Feel like you’re being annoying, because I guarantee it will actually feel like love.
And I cannot thank my friends enough for being there, only a few of which are pictured above. Even today, I still get calls from my friends checking in on me and helping me feel loved.
It’s shown me just how strong of crew I have. And without them I would literally feel like nothing. (Love you guys!)
At the end of the day, remember that life goes on and always gets better once you hit rock bottom. A head full of fears has no space for dreams and this life has more in store for us than we can even imagine.