The Best Advice I’ve Ever Received
Rather than picking one specific piece of advice, I now realize that I oftentimes cater my references based on which chapter of life I’m living in at that moment.
Similarly, I decided to divide out my favorite pieces of advice by the chapters of business, aging, self confidence, relationships, and disappointment.
“We have really good instincts, and it’s better when we listen to them. That’s both personal and in work.” – Ashley Olsen
I actually had a really difficult time narrowing down the advice I listen to when it comes to business. I never had dreams of being an entrepreneur and definitely never saw myself owning my own business. It’s only because I was (and am) willing to listen to the trailblazers ahead of me that I’ve been as successful as I have been.
Especially with Social Media Marketing being such a new-to-the-world field, I recognize that there aren’t many businesses that are working well in my industry… or at least very few that are doing well ethically. So I’ve found that it’s incredibly important that I listen to my instincts when it comes to operating my business. I try to operate/work with clients and business partners that produce results that feel in line with my values, I work to act with humility and kindness, and I try to remember that “no” can be a full sentence when necessary.
“Too soon old. Too late smart.” – My dad/my grandmother
My grandmother used to say this to my dad all the time, and he regularly shares this advice with me. It reminds me of two things.
Firstly, it reminds me that, even when I feel like I do… I’ll never know it all. There will always be constant opportunities to keep learning, keep growing, and keep experiencing life as it unfolds.
But secondly, it reminds me that it’s not my job to know it all either. It’s my job to open my eyes to the world around me so that I can live a fulfilling life that welcomes constant change and any new challenges that come my way.
Mistakes and learning opportunities come in all shapes and sizes. It’s up to us to allow ourselves to adapt and continue learning across our lifetimes.
“She needed a hero, so that’s who she became.” – My mom
There are many reasons that I look up to my mother, but one big reason is because of how well she handles adversity.
Across our lives, we need to be our own heroes. We need to learn, react, and face adversity head on. We need to welcome tough conversations, and celebrate our successes.
Face your fears. Act like the honest, kind, optimistic women you look up to. Especially in times of fear or hurt, we need to learn to be our own hero.
“Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course we wouldn’t fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it’s comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart…” – Carrie in “Sex and the City”
The truth is that every relationship comes into our life for a reason. Whether for a short time or forever, our family, friends, romantic partners, co-workers – anybody, really – comes into our life to teach us something.
And this little quote from Carrie reminds me that that’s okay. Those changes are meant to happen and it’s up to us to open our hearts towards acceptance of those seasons of change.
Nobody is happy all the time, nobody can give great advice all the time. Relationships, at least the best kinds of relationships, are built on give and take. And each season of life will call for a different version of you. But we can always keep the best parts of those relationships that mean the most to us in our hearts over the years.
Don’t rid yourself of every memory just because the relationship may not be in the present… because maybe that’s exactly the relationship you needed in your life at that time.
“I think when tragedy occurs, it presents a choice. You can give into the void, the emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even breathe. Or you can try to find meaning.” – Sheryl Sandberg